NOTE: To keep this simple, I am going to assume heterosexual roles for each of my hypothetical people in these situations.
One of my earliest posts was called Body Language in Human Mating Rituals. While the observations in it were correct, I have to admit I kind of bombed that one. It was quickly written without adequate time nor thought given to it. Body language can be very complex. Sometimes it is as if every part of someone’s body is singing to you and you’re trying to merge each voice into a chorus that tells you a truth beyond words.
The first thing that I teach anyone about reading body language is to look at the feet. Not only are they one of the easiest, most unambiguous things to read on a person, they tend to tell the truth on a body that may be lying. Sometimes consciously but I would guess most times not, people try to stifle their body language. They tend to do this from the head down. Keeping a poker face would be the first thing you think about. Keeping your upper body stiff or unnaturally held would be next. Your legs and feet, however, seem to be oblivious to your mendacity and just hang out down there doing their own thing. Continue reading